General:
- Silently Seduced: When Parents Make their Children Partners
Understanding Covert Incest
Ken Adams
- Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, Revised and Updated
David D. Burns
Learn how your faulty thinking cause you to feel sad, angry, hopeless…
- Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child
John Bradshaw
A book that helps you understand how the different stages of your childhood influence your psychological health.
- First Things First
Stephen R. Covey, A. Roger Merrill, Rebecca R. Merrill
Learn how to better organize your time and procrastinate less.
- Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
Daniel Goleman
- The Worry Trap: How to Free Yourself from Worry and Anxiety Using Acceptance
and Commitment Therapy
Chad LeJeune
Learn how your faulty thinking cause you to feel sad, angry, hopeless…
- The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of
Intimate Relationships
Harriet Lerner
Excellent book for people who over-function in relationship and stuff anger.
- The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to do When a Parent’s Love Rules Your Life
Dr. Patricia Love
- When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within, 2nd Edition
Matthew McKay, Peter D. Rogers, Ph.D., Judith McKay
- The Energy of Money: A Spiritual Guide to Financial and Personal Fulfillment
Maria Nemeth
Your relationship with money is a metaphor for your relationship with life.
- Suze Orman’s Financial Guidebook: Put the 9 Steps to Work
Suze Orman
Women’s Issues:
- Bountiful Women: Large Women’s Secrets for Living the Life They Desire
Carmen Renee Berry
- Women Who Love Too Much
Robin Norwood
When being in love means being in pain…
Men’s Issues:
- When He’s Married to Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment
Kenneth Adams, Alexander Morgan
For both the man and his partner.
- I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
Terrence Real
Fantastic book for men to understand the male form of depression—irritability and anger.
SEX AND LOVE ADDICTION:
General:
- Bountiful Women: Large Women’s Secrets for Living the Life They Desire
Carmen Renee Berry
- Don’t Call It Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction
Patrick Carnes
This is one of two books I always recommend to addicts for themselves and co-addicts to understand the disease.
- Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred
Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., Joseph Moriarity
- Lonely All the Time: Recognizing, Understanding, and Overcoming Sex Addiction, for Addicts and Co-dependents
Dr. Gregory Crow, Dr. Ralph Earle, Kevin Osborn
This is the 2nd book I recommend for addicts and co-addicts.
For Female Addicts:
- The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitative Relationships
Patrick Carnes
- No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Shame
Marnie Ferree
- Women, Sex, and Addiction: A Search for Love and Power
Charlotte S. Kasl
Great first book for female addicts and their co-addicts.
- Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love
Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller, J. Keith Miller
- Women Who Love Too Much
Robin Norwood
When being in love is being in pain…
- Love Sick: One Woman’s Journey through Sexual Addiction
Sue William Silverman
Cybersex
- Cybersex Unhooked: A Workbook for Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior
David L. Delmonico, Elizabeth Griffin and Joseph Moriarity
- Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obsession?
Jennifer Schneider, Robert Weiss
For Gay Addicts:
- Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men
Robert Weiss
Partners of Sex Addicts:
- Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts
Stephanie Carnes
So much of what partners need to know about various topics.
- Disclosing Secrets: When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal
M. Deborah Corley, Jennifer Schneider
A new book by the experts in Sex Addiction Codependency treatment. A must buy!
- Back from Betrayal: Recovering from His Affairs
Jennifer Schneider, M.D.
This book is the original Sex Addiction Codependency book by a recognized expert in her field.
- Sex, Lies, and Forgiveness, Third Edition
Jennifer Schneider, Burt Schneider
Codependency:
- Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
Melody Beattie
This is the cornerstone book for codependency, in my opinion.
- Women Who Love Too Much
Robin Norwood
When being in love is being in pain…
RELATIONSHIPS
Healthy Dating:
- Easy Does It Dating Guide: For People in Recovery
Mary Faulkner
- A Fine Romance: The Passage of Courtship from Meeting to Marriage
Judith Sills, Ph.D.
Absolutely the best book describing the people issues people deal with during the dating, going steady and decision to marry or have a lifetime commitment.
- Guerrilla Dating Tactics: Strategies, Tips, and Secrets for Finding Romance
Sharyn Wolf
Some suggestions are far out, but the overall tone of the book is very helpful in helping shy folks to take the steps needed to meeting a partner.
COUPLES
Imago and Other Relationship Books:
- Loving Your Partner Without Losing Your Self
Martha Baldwin Beveridge, Harville Hendrix, Helen Hunt
- Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance and Reality
Patrick Carnes, Debra Laaser, Mark Laaser
- Kids Pick Up on Everything
David Code
- The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage
Michele Weiner Davis
- Not "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity after Infidelity
Shirley P. Glass, Jean Coppock Staeheli
- Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last
John Gottman
- Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.
- Getting the Love You Want Workbook: The New Couples’ Study Guide
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., Helen Hunt, Ph.D.
- Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.
- Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship by Letting Yourself Be Loved
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., Helen Hunt, Ph.D.
- How to Improve Your Marriage without Talking About It
Patricia Love, Ed.D., Steven Stosny, Ph.D.
- The Truth About Love: The Highs, the Lows, and How You Can Make It Last Forever
Patricia Love
- When Anger Hurts Your Relationship: 10 Simple Solutions for Couples Who Fight
Kim Paleg, Matthew McKay
- How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women
Terrence Real
- The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovery from Affairs
Peggy Vaughan
Gay Relationships/Issues:
- Ten Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives
Joe Kort
Healthy Sexuality:
- For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality
Lonnie Barbach
Still one of the best books for helping women discover their sexuality.
- For Each Other: Sharing Sexual Intimacy
Lonnie Barbach
- The Couple’s Guide to Intimacy: How Sexual Reintegration Therapy Can Help Your Relationship Heal
Bill & Ginger Bercaw
- The Sex-Starved Marriage: A Couple’s Guide to Boosting Their Marriage Libido
Michele Weiner Davis
- Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido
Andrew Goldstein, Marianne Brandon
- Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sexual Addiction
Alexandria Katehakis
- Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passion, Intimate Lovemaking
Patricia Love, Jo Robinson
This is not a how-to book—no explicit instructions—just the best book written for helping couples whose relationship has gotten dull.
- Rekindling Desire: A Step by Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex Marriages
Barry McCarthy
Fantastic, compassionate book. Very helpful
- Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment
Jack Morin
- Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
**
Esther Perel
A great book. Some chapters may be too triggering for sex addicts.
- Sex Smart: How Your Family Shaped Your Sexual Life and What to Do About It
Aline Zoldbrod Ph.D
Parenting:
- Kids Pick Up on Everything
David Code
- Giving the Love that Heals
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.
- Love or Addiction? The Power and Peril of Teen Sex and Romance
Brenda Schaeffer
- Parenting from the Inside Out
Daniel Siegel, Mary Hartzell
Other Addictions:
- Behind the 8-Ball: A Recovery Guide for the Families of Gamblers
Linda Berman, Mary-Ellen Siegal
- When Money is the Drug: The Compulsion for Credit, Cash, and Chronic Debt
Donna Boundy
- Chained to the Desk: A Guidebook for Workaholics, Their Partners and Children, and the Clinicians Who Treat Them
Bryan Robinson
Spirituality:
- The Language of Letting Go
Melody Beattie
- Strength in the Storm: Creating Calm in Difficult Times
Eknath Easwaran
- Sabbath: Finding Rest, Renewal, and Delight in Our Busy Lives
Wayne Muller
- The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth
M. Scott Peck
- A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose
Eckhart Tolle
- Meditations for Recovery Zone: Inspirational Meditations for All People in Recovery and Their Families
Jeffrey Walker, Patrick Carnes
- Essential Spirituality: The 7 Central Practices to Awaken Heart and Mind
Roger Walsh
A great book for people who are trying to learn about spirituality.
